i really need people to stop talking about mras only in terms of fedoras/being bronys/how unkempt they are, etc. because there are dudes out here looking like hollister models who need to be held just as accountable for their creepy/misogynistic behavior
and don’t get me started on how y’all aren’t saying “unkempt” y’all are saying fat slobs who only eat doritos and mtn. dew
your fatphobia isn’t progressive and there are dudes out here eating organic free range flax seed compote and saying the same shit that the doritos dudes are okay
they don’t get a pass just because they’re conventially attractive
That and sometimes issues with grooming (“neckbeard”), not eating right (“cheetos”), not going out much, or not being “sufficiently” independent (“momma’s basement”) can also be signs or signifiers of disability, too.
Being sexist is not okay, and I personally think neckbeards (as in literal facial hair on someone’s neck) are ugly. But it’s the sexism that’s the problem, not these other things.
If these other things are a real trend rather than a stereotype, maybe we should be asking ourselves how toxically sexist enclaves make themselves appealing to disabled men.
Because if this is a real thing, then it’s horizontal hostility. It’s “I have it shitty because I can’t make it in the world, but at least I’m not a woman.”
When people start doing that — propping themselves up using an ism because people are *ist against them — then the question isn’t just “What’s wrong with them?” it’s also “Is there something that encourages them to turn against other oppressed people? How do we nip that in the bud?”